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Showing posts with label Relapse prevention. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relapse prevention. Show all posts

Saturday, December 20, 2014

Burning through the calories: where the carbs fit for weight management

Are you hyper focusing on the nutrients that are 'safe' to eat?
Processed foods are bad, toxic even. Breads, even so-called wheat breads, must be avoided. Other starches aren’t great for you either—but those whole grains seem a little better. And forget sugar, because you know all the horror stories about what sugar does.  Best to avoid it all; it’s much safer that way.

That’s what Dave thinks, and he’s not alone. He's an underweight young man, unhealthily thin. Yes, most sources of carbs are a problem for him. In fact, most fats are also a problem for him. He selects only foods he perceives as super-foods—super healthy choices chock full of nutrients; he’s not contaminating his body with any of that other junk. He reads a lot, but never the full research paper, because, I mean, who does? Anyway, if it’s in print, then it must be true, right?

Start to look at the big picture.
No, not correct. Even all the hype about sugar and its negative impact on health pulls from studies showing high intakes—25% of total calories, to be specific. That’s a lot of sugar. And that’s quite different than including a couple of mint Milanos or Lindt chocolates for instance, in the midst of a healthy, balanced diet. But why all the fuss, you ask? Who needs processed carbs anyway?

An RDA for chocolates?


It’s like this. There’s no daily requirement for processed foods—that’s for certain. But creating long lists of foods to avoid creates another set of health issues, both mental and physical. Deprivation, for one, creates rebound overeating, so setting rigid rules about all the foods you can’t eat becomes an issue. Further, avoiding large categories of foods as Dave does leaves fewer fuel sources and nutrients to meet your needs. A diet of vegetables and lean protein and a bit of fruit will likely leave you low energy—carbohydrate stores are our go-to for fuel; yes there’s a reason why Marathoners have a pasta dinner before their event.  Food rules are challenging to adhere to and lead to increased preoccupation with food and eating.

It’s worse if your needs are high, like if you are in the process of restoring weight from a low place. Truly, metabolic rate dramatically increases to well above what others of the same height (but who weren’t restricting and now re-feeding) experience. So the feeling of fatigue may result, and if you’re wondering why your strength is lost, this could be why. Or if you are a growing teen, restricting what you can eat may add to your problems—it’s challenging to meet your needs to restore normal growth when there’s lots you choose not to eat.

Burn, baby burn


Take a step back and try to look at your
assumptions a bit differently.
It's hard to negotiate with irrational thoughts. And the media's messages villainizing most anything that tastes good hardly help. So I’ll turn to my fireplace analogy to help him (and you) see carbs as just another fuel.

Let's say you have a fireplace. You could burn logs of pine or oak or maple. Burning each log type generates heat, turns to ashes in the end, regardless of which you started with.

Should it matter to you which type of log or fuel you use? Well you might have a preference for the scent of pine or maple, let's say. But from a fuel standpoint, it doesn't much matter. That is, as long as the total amount of wood is equivalent. It's just like food and its building blocks. You could burn carbs or protein or fats that you eat and yield energy—our heat equivalent here. And as long as the total amount of fuel or calories is the same, your body hardly cares where the fuel source came from—from a weight standpoint. You may have a preference for the taste of chicken or of nuts, and some foods may be more satiating (think whole grains or balanced meals including protein); and a varied diet will help meet your nutrient needs over time. But if the calories are the same, they will generate about the same amount of energy.

That's sweetened chai tea with real milk to go with our
carb-based snack.
But substitute some twigs and the fire dies down fast. Rice cakes, for instance, just won't sustain the energy. You could swap newspaper for the logs. But you'd need a ton of it to heat your house in winter. Yes, just like if you chose only light products or large volume but low calorie dense foods like broths or salads with little substance to them.

So what can I do now?




Stoke your fire with items that are pleasant. I love the scent of burning pine, personally, and I enjoy a good piece of pastry when I need the fuel. There are times those whole grains are just what I'm yearning, and they'll likely take a bit more time to process, and thus burn, than just white rice. But brown sushi just doesn't seem right.  And favoring protein and eating lots of it simply because you heard it’s good for you is no advantage for long-term weight management.


A healthy body requires getting enough. Not just total calories, but satisfaction, from a wide range of foods and nutrients. Isn’t it time you free yourself from the unnecessary food rules?

Saturday, September 27, 2014

Don't wait for an earthquake to shake you into action.


I was talking to a guy from San Francisco this week, and the subject turned to earthquakes. This long-time SF resident and survivor of the big quake of 1989 offered some very practical advice for me to share with my son, a San Francisco newbie, fortunately naïve about the seriousness of going through an earthquake. His focus was not on what to do during the crisis—although that advice is critical as well—but rather what to do before hand. How to be prepared for this challenging situation, because being prepared, as he put it, is the surest way to increase survival.

Imagine that while sitting and discussing such matters my mind moved to you, my dear readers. No, there’s no need to worry about earthquakes for most of you. Rather, the subject of preparedness as a means to ensure survival and minimize damage struck me as most fitting—whether you struggle with an eating disorder or living free of diet rules.

Have a plan, he said. In San Francisco that might mean knowing which are the secure places to hover—the solid doorways and tables to stay under. But before it strikes, he emphasized that it’s critical to have an action plan: to keep cash on hand—because you never know when you’ll need it and ATM machines simply don’t work in these situations. Have a plan for communicating with those you’re close with—because electric doorbells to apartment buildings will fail and telephone lines other than landlines will fail. A transistor radio helps you connect with the world—to reality check what’s going on outside of your own limited space. You’ll need light of course—so batteries and flashlights need to be stashed to access easily.  And of course a supply of non-perishable food as well as water. Decision-making when undernourished will surely be compromised.

Time to come out of hiding and ask for what you need.
You can guess where I’m going with this. Yes, the analogy applies to you who are metaphorically on no greater solid ground. Communication is key to survival, and planning for opening these channels is critical. Can you tell your partner you’re struggling? Can you ask for help shopping and cooking to ensure your health and nourishment? Can you simply say “I need a place to eat dinner tonight?” Can you ask them to keep the pastries off the counter when you are trying to avoid impulse eating? Can you ask for a referral to a therapist or a behaviorally oriented dietician?

Where’s your transistor radio, so to speak, your exposure to the world outside of your own thoughts? Admittedly the cultural media may not be the most fitting reality check for sane thoughts, for diet-free messages, unfortunately. What I mean is that you need exposure outside of your own disorder thoughts—someone that can ground you when you are limited inside your own space. Were you really happier when you were so much thinner? Did staying on that crazy diet truly improve your quality of life? Your mental health? Or are you using magical thinking like the way we recall old boyfriends/relationships, fantasizing about how awesome it all was--when really it was nothing of the sort? Do you think you’ll restrict just for now and then be able to simply normalize your eating? Think again!

Do you have a grounding place to run to—your doctor, therapist, dietician, perhaps even a higher level of care—if your foundation is shaking? Do you have ready to eat food for when resources are tough to come by? A reserve for when, due to all the stress, your ability to organize and think through what’s best to eat may be impaired?

Where will your light come from when the power goes out? Do you recharge with talk therapy, or maybe yoga or meditation? Do you get spiritual support or guidance from wise friends or loved ones?
You may get no warning before the quake, before the shake up to your healthy behaviors and thoughts. So have a plan. Be prepared.

What steps will you take? Please share—we can all use to hear some ideas!



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