tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post8195241931072440815..comments2024-03-04T00:43:25.831-08:00Comments on Drop It and Eat: Drop the Diet, Manage Your Weight: Do you believe recovery just isn’t possible, at least, not for you?HikerRDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-33694967280350495952013-05-21T18:35:28.707-07:002013-05-21T18:35:28.707-07:00Thank you. That really helps.Thank you. That really helps.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-41185690780591273762013-05-20T09:46:39.363-07:002013-05-20T09:46:39.363-07:00Guilt does not constitute an eating disorder, nor ...Guilt does not constitute an eating disorder, nor does frustration. You seem to be sensible to know that restrictive eating sets you up for trouble. Perhaps the work to be done is accepting that your weight may be just fine for you--if you are healthy and fit, particularly if this is a normal place for you, if you have always been larger than average or that the charts dictate is 'normal'. The best change you can make is freeing yourself from the guilt!HikerRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-36720715962444587392013-05-20T09:38:05.119-07:002013-05-20T09:38:05.119-07:00OK, at 5'1" and 160 pounds, I am overweig...OK, at 5'1" and 160 pounds, I am overweight. I exercise and take care not to overeat, but the number on the scale doesn't change. I am not interested in dieting because WW et al. leave me feeling trapped and constantly thinking of food. I know logically that I am doing my best to live a healthy lifestyle, but sometimes I feel guilty if I'm full at the end of a meal. Is this a symptom of ED, or is it normal to be frustrated in my situation? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-60228330048570188442013-05-16T04:54:39.156-07:002013-05-16T04:54:39.156-07:00Exactly what Lori is saying: If you're stuck t...Exactly what Lori is saying: If you're stuck there, it will never happen. I know this because I was stuck there for a long, long time. And I resigned to the fact that I would not recover. Others can, but it's just not in my cards. And as a result I didn't try that hard so clearly I didn't or couldn't succeed. It wasn't until I understood fully that I have to choose to recover and not half-assed, either. It is really only up to me, I'm the only one that can make this happen. Lori's right, recovery is absolutely not passive! It doesn't just 'happen' to you because you want it, you have to actively make it happen with all the strength you can gather! You have to make the decision to want it. I believe recovery is a decision, it's a choice, and it's hard work. But recovery IS possible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-89923188353781640922013-05-14T02:29:43.642-07:002013-05-14T02:29:43.642-07:00I was right where you are- eating food and maintai...I was right where you are- eating food and maintaining a semihealthy weight but I was soooo unhealthy inside. I was obsessed with calories, wouldn't stray from my set food schedule, weighed myself several times a day, and couldn't imagine life without ED seeping into ever part of my life. But when I started seeing Lori, she encouraged me to take the little steps- stop weighing myself (5 months today since I let the scale have power over me!!!), start paying attention to my hunger cues-then, with time, start responding, make a few increases to my basic meal plan, start making myself treats (food to eat-fabulous source of ideas!:)), think about the non-appearance positives of each part of my body such as strengthetc. At first it was just actions, and I struggled to really respond to my hunger but eventually, it started to become more and more mental. Now I can't imagine ever going back- I have so much strength, joy, and freedom! I don't think about weight all day and I eat when I'm hungry, not when it's "time". Take hope, and take the little steps!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01533411722523323092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-47878080666641231632013-05-13T17:00:51.014-07:002013-05-13T17:00:51.014-07:00While recovery is possible, it's not passive. ...While recovery is possible, it's not passive. The first step is believing that recovery is possible; if you're stuck there, it will never happen.HikerRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-49194436022102141222013-05-13T16:52:55.862-07:002013-05-13T16:52:55.862-07:00I still don't feel like I'll ever be "...I still don't feel like I'll ever be "normal." I've had an ED for 20 years, and don't think that I could ever be free of it. It's nice to see that others can though.PTChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05377666179155825301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-11585416820423257682013-05-12T18:28:12.661-07:002013-05-12T18:28:12.661-07:00Last year on mothers day you urged your readers to...Last year on mothers day you urged your readers to have hope that recovery was possible because you KNOW it is. I held on to that for dear life over the last year. This year I am pleased to say that I have more and more frequent glimpses into the life your patient described. Today I can say for myself that I believe that I WILL recover fully. Thank you for letting me know a year ago when I first started reading your blog that it was most certainly possible and of course for this encouraging and inspiring post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13350300921019162904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-555200205853870322013-05-12T17:05:16.146-07:002013-05-12T17:05:16.146-07:00Belief that I can recover is something that I have...Belief that I can recover is something that I have and then I lose and then I have and then I lose. Sometimes the hope stays with me for a good chunk of time. Other times it is gone in a minute. I cant imagine a life when obsessive thoughts are history, when eating comes naturally, and I dont feel that food and its importance is overrated. I cant imagine a day when there is no calculator lodged in my brain. I dont actually remember a time when this was not the case. But, I do believe it is possible. For me, my well of hope fills up when I hear of other people who have felt the exact way I do and have recovered - have stopped living this subpar life. Working with a team of people like you, who reassure me that it IS possible, despite the morbid statistics, is crucial. There was once a moment when I thought one of my providers had given up on me, lost hope for me, and I was devastated. I didnt know how I could even consider moving forward in recovery if I was hopeless in her eyes. I agree with the study you reference- when I see the rest of my life as more important than my eating disorder, that is when my hope can sneak in and stay for awhile. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-57516812466977318602013-05-12T06:42:35.724-07:002013-05-12T06:42:35.724-07:00I used to believe that I was the exception. That r...I used to believe that I was the exception. That recovery was possible for everyone but me. This last February I relapsed hard and voluntarily admitted myself into inpatient treatment. It was there that I met some of the strongest people I know and finally saw myself on an even playing field. I genuinely believed in the recovery and healing of everyone around me, so why couldn't that include me? It does and since then I haven't looked back. In less than a week I will be getting married, something that wouldn't be possible if I wasn't actively choosing and pursuing recovery. Hope is a wonderful thing and its freely available if you allow it. Thanks so much Lori for this post and to your patient for having the courage to push forward and share it with the rest of the world. Daniellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00851214683206503226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-20208750657139787962013-05-12T05:37:51.008-07:002013-05-12T05:37:51.008-07:00Lori,
As I am on my start to recovery this is tru...Lori,<br /><br />As I am on my start to recovery this is truly inspiring!! Thank you for sharing and thank you to your patient for allowing you to share. I have become very hopeful that I too will recover and think about food normally again. Thank you again for your support and thank you for sharing. Dina Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06252581685884929086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-85424876878807489502013-05-12T01:26:22.646-07:002013-05-12T01:26:22.646-07:00Lori, thank you to you and your patient for sharin...Lori, thank you to you and your patient for sharing this poignant and insightful message. I am really moved – to tears actually – and somewhat encouraged that full and determined recovery is possible. I mean, I eat and I take the steps towards that incredible shift but it still eludes me. One day...I hope...and so I continue moving towards it...JLKnoreply@blogger.com