tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post416431639443563675..comments2024-03-04T00:43:25.831-08:00Comments on Drop It and Eat: Drop the Diet, Manage Your Weight: Lying And Eating Disorder Recovery. What Do You Do Now?HikerRDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-57032027432674508312013-07-07T08:27:39.000-07:002013-07-07T08:27:39.000-07:00Patty,
I couldn't agree with you more! Lying ...Patty,<br /><br />I couldn't agree with you more! Lying is yet another symptom of the eating disorder and it was not my intent to create shame about it, as you describe. Rather, by writing about it I hoped to point out how integral it can become when living with an eating disorder, helping individuals realize that it is a part of the disorder one must guard against.<br /><br />And thanks so much for your praise of our cookbook Food to Eat! I'd love it if you'd cut and paste your comment and add it to Amazon reviews so others may benefit from it; I am working hard to get it the visibility it needs, as individuals struggling with eating disorders may not be sharing such things through social media.<br /><br />Hope to hear from you again on this blog! HikerRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-52510873839655605402013-07-07T06:54:29.573-07:002013-07-07T06:54:29.573-07:00Hi Lori,
I recently bought your new cookbook and ...Hi Lori,<br /><br />I recently bought your new cookbook and absolutely love it. One day I thought to myself "There MUST be a cookbook for people recovering from EDs" and lo and behold! Then I found your blog, and have been enjoying it as well. I really appreciate this article, and I think it's important for patients to get a bit of a glimpse into the thoughts of a provider. <br /><br />I think something is missing here though, and that is the recognition that the lying and dishonesty are absolutely characteristic behaviors of an ED. As it is framed here, a bit of shame is placed on the patients for the difficulties their dishonesty may pose for their providers. But I really feel that this kind of shame is just as inappropriate to feel as any shame related to the disorder itself. Dishonesty ought to be treated like any other symptom. Rather, why not reassure patients that you understand that shame is inherent in an ED? Then you can reassure the patient that your office is a safe place for the him/her to be honest and make a promise that the truth is absolutely safe with you. Then together, you can work towards untangling the shame to uncover the truth, to work toward recovery.<br /><br />I know that as a provider with years of experience in treating ED patients these are things that you are very familiar with. I just feel that this was a crucial piece that was absent from your article in a way that left me feeling uncomfortably misunderstood.<br /><br />On another note, I appreciate so much the cookbook. Thank you thank you thank you a million times over for putting together such a gentle and comforting guide to learning how to eat again. I'm a year out from what I think of as the recovery phase of my ED, but cooking for myself and managing my hunger are still major challenges for me.<br /><br />All the best,<br />Pattyiwantmythunderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09979977317405566615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-83895179457488747792013-06-28T01:46:43.556-07:002013-06-28T01:46:43.556-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.jessicahttp://pharmafreak.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-34876839979987973532013-06-27T17:49:43.437-07:002013-06-27T17:49:43.437-07:00I don't know if this is the right place to ask...I don't know if this is the right place to ask but could you so a post about exercise and a healthy attitude toward it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-49523935210388846972013-06-24T12:35:03.459-07:002013-06-24T12:35:03.459-07:00I think this was one of your best posts yet. Lying...I think this was one of your best posts yet. Lying is a huge part of eating disorder behavior and a huge part of treatment/recovery. I never lie to my treatment team (on purpose, although sometimes ed tricks me into thinking I am being honest), my figuring is that if I am there to get help with this then lying is not going to get me any further along. However, I will say that I am tempted to lie almost daily. It is for some of the reasons that you mentioned, but it is also because I want my team to be proud of me and feel like I am doing well by them. It is so difficult to not follow recommendations, particularly for someone like me that is not a 'rule breaker'. As you stated, it brings up a lot of shame. Doing well and doing poorly can both lead to lying. However it shakes out though, mutual trust seems like a prerequisite for recovery. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-36581286388243172632013-06-21T19:26:46.224-07:002013-06-21T19:26:46.224-07:00I am finally telling the truth to my RD. I am a r...I am finally telling the truth to my RD. I am a recovering anorexic. I am medically stable now but ED is always there in my head. I am an exercise instructor (yes, I know not the best job for an ED patient) and I finally told her how I always feel hungry on my meal plan. She had me add calories and it scares me to death, but deep down I know that I need them. I felt weak admitting I was hungry and needed more food, but by lying and not honoring my hunger I let ED win.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-87461423281312037902013-06-21T15:13:24.585-07:002013-06-21T15:13:24.585-07:00Wow, that's a good one. I probably lie to mys...Wow, that's a good one. I probably lie to myself way more than I even know...about food, exercise, etc. I don't care that I lie to myself, I'm not disappointing anyone and I don't feel guilty about it, but when I lie to my T about my weight, that makes me feel horrible. I do it to protect myself, so I can continue seeing her. If I didn't weigh what she wanted me to weigh, she would "fire" me and I didn't want that to happen, so I lied about my weight. I hate that I've lied to her, but it was because I didn't want to lose her. I guess it's also because I didn't want to give up my ED either.PTChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05377666179155825301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-54963617838438085132013-06-21T15:03:15.609-07:002013-06-21T15:03:15.609-07:00I can relate to the lying for fear of being abando...I can relate to the lying for fear of being abandoned. Much of my life for a long time has been lived either because of this fear or at a distance to prevent the pain in advance. I like to think I'm mostly honest with my therapist although there are times or tics that if I'm honest with myself, I'm not honest enough. This post gives me things to think about when it comes to honesty.battynursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240029154165501340noreply@blogger.com