tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post7067114825622074685..comments2024-03-04T00:43:25.831-08:00Comments on Drop It and Eat: Drop the Diet, Manage Your Weight: Maggie’s 152 lb. Weight Loss—This Time, It’s Not DisorderedHikerRDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-85194351819515210272011-02-20T09:09:19.947-08:002011-02-20T09:09:19.947-08:00Thank you so much for sharing this inspiring story...Thank you so much for sharing this inspiring story! It's so comforting to know that there are others out there who share my same struggles and thoughts. What amazing accomplishments Maggie has made! Congratulations!!! :)<br /><br />Marissa :)Marissanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-57292377765717567072011-02-20T08:18:45.515-08:002011-02-20T08:18:45.515-08:00I'll be at MEDA day one of the conference, May...I'll be at MEDA day one of the conference, May 20th. Perhaps I'll see you then?HikerRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-67450374595153034282011-02-20T04:15:34.890-08:002011-02-20T04:15:34.890-08:00Hi Lori-
I also work with women with eating disord...Hi Lori-<br />I also work with women with eating disorders and related issues and I think the fear of being seen as "fine" is.... huge! But more than that..the eating and the weight and the suffering are a big way women have learned to negotiate for what they need. I know that before somebody decides to hurt themselves with food there is often a thought that sounds like "I'm suffering, so I deserve this". <br />It's a difficult theme to bring up but once it's more conscious all of my clients really relate to the way they're using food and weight to justify past or current hurts/insults/feelings of being deprived emotionally. <br />Would love to connect with you- great blog and topics. I'm in Harvard, MA out in the country.<br /><br />Many Blessings-<br />Lisa<br /><br />http://www.IntuitiveBody.com<br />Simple Sacred Solutions To Living BeautifullyLisa Claudia Briggshttp://www.intuitivebody.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-63951328168897718902011-02-19T08:34:00.448-08:002011-02-19T08:34:00.448-08:00Plain Jane-You are not alone, regarding your react...Plain Jane-You are not alone, regarding your reaction and focus on numbers! I'm sure you'll hear that's more the norm than the exception. And I know that that will change as you progress in your recovery ; )HikerRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-31538226083821378112011-02-19T07:53:27.567-08:002011-02-19T07:53:27.567-08:00oh gosh, no Lori - no warning required - I'm s...oh gosh, no Lori - no warning required - I'm sure it's just me :) Your comment after the mention of her weight was an adequate reminder that this was not the point - I just have a thing about numbers. I'm sure it's why I weigh myself so often. But that's my silly problem - I don't imagine anyone else would have interpreted it in such a skewed manner.Plain Janenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-8345501304805270222011-02-19T07:41:35.771-08:002011-02-19T07:41:35.771-08:00I'm glad this post is striking a chord with re...I'm glad this post is striking a chord with readers. Truly it could've been multiple posts, and I can see that it's worth adding more case studies to highlight the points made.<br /><br />I'm truly sorry if the numbers were triggering. Does it need a warning? Please let me know! I attempted to put them in context, and it's critical to remember that her weight gain occurred following a trauma, and without support from a team to help her identify and utilize other coping strategies, other than eating. And she had not previously questioned her unhealthy thought pattern and unrealistic goals.<br /><br />Just like the male referred to in my BMI post, the weight itself does not have to be the issue, but the thoughts, feelings and even relative change in weight, perhaps.HikerRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-10656027364388226502011-02-19T07:40:26.932-08:002011-02-19T07:40:26.932-08:00I think the fear that a healthy weight will delegi...I think the fear that a healthy weight will delegitimize your issues/struggles is pretty common in ED recovery. Over the years I have gotten some very ignorant and dismissive remarks from various medical professionals that basically assumed I was fine if I didn't seem emaciated or *too* underweight to them, without any inquiry into my behavior patterns and mindset at the time. Definitely an example of how beneficial it can be to find a physician with at least some ED experience.<br /><br />Great post!Cammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18181004571609998125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-81793603730058959362011-02-19T07:00:45.926-08:002011-02-19T07:00:45.926-08:00Oh, I like snarkylark's comment! That really s...Oh, I like snarkylark's comment! That really sums up what I should have seen as the take home message of your post - that recovery is s-l-o-w (pity that patience and I are such strangers!). Of course I got stuck on those numbers - 117 to 388lbs (eeek). <br />As for 'wearing' an ED, I asked my counsellor today if she could 'see' my ED - I'm so paranoid of anyone ever finding out. Thankfully she said that although I am thin I do not 'look' unwell - which was a huge relief. I'm not sure I will ever want anyone outside my treatment team to know about this.Plain Janenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-2436934682360202832011-02-18T22:28:44.096-08:002011-02-18T22:28:44.096-08:00Thank you so much for sharing this story with us, ...Thank you so much for sharing this story with us, stories like these really help to shed light on an issue that isn't as easily explained as one might think. What an amazing woman Maggie is to have come so far and found such a strong voice to advocate for herself with her doctor.<br /><br />Sometimes I think therapists aren't as forthcoming about just how long it takes to recover from an eating disorder, fearing it will deter their patients from treatment. But it takes more than just a few months or a few years as Maggie experienced, as I have experienced, and as many others have experienced.<br /><br />Again, many thanks for your post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449641905298601952.post-86407869915296325622011-02-18T16:33:20.477-08:002011-02-18T16:33:20.477-08:00Another blogger and I exchanged comments about thi...Another blogger and I exchanged comments about this very issue last week. We both recognized that we were hesitant to return to a healthy weight because then our family and friends would assume that everything was fixed and that we were completely healthy. Our eating disorders were never about food to begin with, so why would returning to a normal weight indicate recovery? Of course, that's something that only people who understand eating disorders would be able to conceptualize. Although I'm on a healthy road to recovery, the temptation to wear my ED on my sleeve creeps in sometimes.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06140656536484404635noreply@blogger.com